Most of us want to believe the people we care about are being honest with us. But sometimes, the truth gets bent—or completely hidden. Whether it’s a small fib or a serious deception, knowing how to spot the signs of lying can protect your emotional health and help you make better decisions.

I’ve seen how chronic lying affects mental well-being, breaks trust, and leads to anxiety and confusion. Let’s look at six clear signs that someone may not be telling you the truth.

1. They Avoid Eye Contact—Or Force It Too Much

Eye contact is often one of the first things people notice when trying to read honesty. A common myth is that liars always avoid eye contact. While that can happen, the opposite is also true. Some people try too hard to hold your gaze to appear truthful.

Watch for eyes that dart around the room or a stare that feels unnatural or forced. Both can signal discomfort, which might come from hiding the truth.

2. Their Story Keeps Changing

Truth is consistent. When someone tells the truth, their story usually stays the same, even if you ask them to repeat it days later. A liar, however, often struggles to keep track of what they said before.

If you notice small details shifting or parts of the story being added or removed, it may be a red flag. This inconsistency can be a sign that they’re adjusting their story to avoid getting caught.

3. Their Body Language Doesn’t Match Their Words

When words and body language don’t align, pay attention. A person might say “I’m fine,” but their arms are crossed tightly, or they’re turning away from you.

Fidgeting, touching the face or neck, tapping fingers, or sudden stillness can be physical signs of lying. These unconscious behaviors often show that the person is feeling nervous or uneasy.

4. They Get Defensive Quickly

Someone telling the truth usually stays calm when questioned. But a person who lies may get defensive—even angry—when you ask simple questions.

Phrases like “Why would I lie to you?” or “I can’t believe you’re asking me that!” might be used to deflect attention or make you feel guilty for doubting them.

This tactic is meant to shut down the conversation before you dig deeper.

5. They Give Too Much Information

Ironically, liars often overshare. Instead of giving short, clear answers, they may go into unnecessary detail.

This happens because they feel the need to make their lie sound believable. They might add irrelevant facts, backstories, or even talk too much about their emotions to win your trust.

Pay attention to answers that feel overly rehearsed or too perfect.

6. Something Just Feels Off

Sometimes, your instincts speak before your brain does. If something feels “off,” listen to that feeling.

Even if you can’t point to one specific sign, a general sense of discomfort or confusion around someone’s story might be your mind picking up on subtle inconsistencies.

Trust is built on honesty. When that foundation is weak, it often shows up in subtle ways.

When to Be Concerned

A single sign doesn’t always mean someone is lying. People might avoid eye contact or get nervous for many reasons. But when you notice several of these signs at once, it’s time to take a closer look.

Chronic lying can harm relationships, damage trust, and increase emotional stress. If you’re often unsure about someone’s honesty, consider having an open and respectful conversation with them.

In more serious situations—especially when lies involve money, safety, or emotional abuse—protecting yourself must be the priority. Seek support from a mental health professional or counselor if needed.

Final Thoughts

Lying is a behavior, not a personality. People lie for many reasons—fear, guilt, shame, or manipulation. While no one wants to feel suspicious, knowing the signs can help you stay grounded in truth and protect your peace of mind.

It’s about staying aware, protecting your well-being, and building relationships based on honesty and trust.